A recent article in the Wall Street Journal noted an increase in prenuptial (“prenup”) agreements within the Orthodox Jewish community. These agreements, which are prepared prior to a wedding in anticipation of the potential for divorce, have become more common. Perhaps what was considered newsworthy by the Journal in this case was the acceptance of these agreements within a highly “religious” group of people.
Christians should have a prenup
It might surprise you to learn that my wife and I had a prenup agreement. But ours was very different from those crafted in our society today, and was much simpler. Our prenup agreement was simply this—we agreed to never consider divorce as an option. In fact, we agreed that we would never even joke about divorce (after all, why would one make a joke out of something that God hates?).
The tests of marriage
That agreement was quickly put to the test, as the early years of our marriage were extremely difficult. Neither of us came from a Christian upbringing and both of us came to faith in the Lord Jesus Christ after finishing college. As such we brought a lot of “baggage” into our marriage. The temptation to “bail out” probably crossed both of our minds on multiple occasions during the early years of our marriage.
The fixer of broken lives
But because of our prenup agreement, we stayed together through those hard times. The commitment we made to each other in the sight of our Lord not only kept us together, but gave us the incredible blessing of seeing how He can take broken lives and form a marriage that glorifies Him and brings joy and blessing to us! So now, looking back after 33 years of marriage, we are very grateful for the prenup agreement we made.
A glorious promise
But consider this–as the church, we are the bride of Christ. What a blessing to consider that our Bridegroom has given us something far better than any earthly prenup—He has given us His very word that He will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5)!