Dear Young Men (and any other men who care to read!),
I was recently meeting with some of the ladies from our local church, and they thanked me for being “motherly” to them. To be honest, I was a bit taken aback as I honestly was thinking of them as peers because we all get along so well and share back and forth what the Lord is doing in our lives.
However, I do have five children, two of whom are already adults, and I suppose I am older than most of those ladies. After thinking of myself in this new light, I was thinking that perhaps I should embrace this role and try to encourage our younger brothers as well.
I want to address the issue of participating vocally in the Lord’s Supper
First, let me say that I know it is a lot of pressure on you to feel like you should stand up and speak. You may feel pressure from elders, other believers, and most of all, from yourself.
Second, I am sure it is hard to figure out when the Holy Spirit is actually leading you to get up and share. Is it supposed to be a feeling? A mysterious urging that comes over you? What does “the Spirit leading” look and feel like?
Third, I bet it’s difficult to feel like you need to fit what you share into some kind of theme or link songs that someone gives out to what someone has prayed. Some men seem to be so good at it. Maybe you’re thinking, “Why didn’t I see that?”
Fourth, it might be really hard not to compare yourself with the older men, who may use “Thees and Thous” in prayer or other flowery terms. You might feel insecure about that.
Here are 4 things I would like you to know
- Sharing at the Lord’s Supper isn’t about feeling pressured to do so. The Lord (and the rest of us) want to hear worship coming from a thankful heart. It might not be easy; it’s a sacrifice. I am sure for some it’s completely uncomfortable. However, did you know that for some of the women sitting there, it’s completely uncomfortable to keep silent? Silence is also a sacrifice. The Lord is taking us all out of our comfort zones so that it’s just not about us! It’s all about Him.
- The Holy Spirit can lead you all week long. If you read your Bible, thoughts will come to you about the Lord’s greatness, Jesus’ sacrifice, things He has done in your own life. When a speaker gets up to preach, do you think that he comes without studying? The entire time he is studying, the Spirit is leading him in what to say from the pulpit on Sunday. I don’t think you need to wait for a mysterious feeling to come upon you to get up and worship Him. He wants our worship all the time, so you really can’t go wrong with getting up and sharing how amazing He is or praying directly to Him and telling Him that you think so.
- Sometimes, something one of the other men says will make you think of a song to give out. But most often, it will probably make you think of how great our God is. You may think, “Wow! God is so amazing! Thank you Lord!” What do you think would happen if you actually said that out loud? If you actually said, “Wow! God is so amazing! Thank you Lord!” It would draw all of our hearts to agreement and it would help us all reflect on His character and His love and thank Him (a.k.a. worship!)
- Coming from someone who has sat through the Lord’s Supper since birth, take it from me. DO NOT WORRY about being flowery or fancy. Just talk straight from the heart. If we had every man there just simply saying why the Lord is awesome for sending His Son for us or for how that affects their lives, we wouldn’t have prolonged periods of silence and we would come away with hearts burning in gratitude.
These are my thoughts that I wanted to share. I realize I didn’t use any Scripture to support these points. I could dig some up, but the point here is just to have you see things from a different perspective – a “motherly” perspective, I suppose.
If you only take one thing away from this encouragement, let it be this: You are my voice. You are the voice of the women sitting in silence. Please lead us in worship. We can sit and pray on our own, but we long to be led by sincere men who just draw our hearts towards the Lord in complete gratitude. Honestly, you can keep it simple.
A “motherly” assembly girl