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Singleness: Stop Being Discontent

Singleness: Stop Being Discontent

Recently I went to a beautiful wedding. I watched as the bride walked down the aisle gazing at her groom who only had eyes for her. I watched as they said their vows and committed their lives to each other.

This stirred something in my heart. Discontentment. Disappointment. Memories came flooding back of relationships that didn’t work out. I was upset at myself because I’m single, because I didn’t have anyone in my life at the moment. And then I realized that those thoughts and feelings are absolutely wrong, because I was blaming God for my singleness.

God has a plan!

God has each part of our lives planned out so He can use us for His glory in any circumstance that we’re in. This means whether we’re single or married He has something absolutely beautiful planned for our lives. There is nothing wrong with being single.

Marriage is an absolutely beautiful covenant made by God. So why rush it? Why become so upset that we’re single? Why not instead live our lives for God and work on becoming a better person and getting to know who we really are before we even consider marriage? The Lord should be enough for each one of us and when He reveals us His plan, whether its singleness or marriage, we should follow after Him.

Singleness brings opportunities

Take for instance the apostle Paul. Could he have travelled the world preaching the gospel if he was married? What about the prophet Elijah? Or the prophet Jeremiah? It wouldn’t be ideal for them to be married and doing what the Lord told them to do.

You can do so many amazing things as a single person that a lot of married couples can’t do. So why not use your time right now as a single person to benefit others for the Lord’s glory?

A future and a hope

Don’t be ashamed that you’re single. Don’t be disappointed or discontent with your life. The Lord has a plan for you, just like He says in Jeremiah 29:11, “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the Lord. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'”

He will show you what His plans are for your life because all of His plans are good.

Catherine Hulshizer

Catherine lives in Pennsylvania, attending and serving at a chapel that her parents and others helped plant. Catherine’s life was changed her senior year of high school where she decided that she needed to show the light of the Lord Jesus to others in the world. She prays that each person that she meets will see the Lord shining through her. “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13

2 Responses to Singleness: Stop Being Discontent

  1. Pat

    This was a great article Catherine! I too have found myself in areas of asking God time and again why I’m still single. It is only in the past year that I’ve begun to see that maybe I’m that way for a reason. I can do so much more for Christ in this state than I could if I were married. Does that mean that the Lord doesn’t have someone out there for me? Only He knows for sure…but I’m not going to ‘rush’ Him to show me and end up unequally yoked to someone that God never intended me to be with.

  2. Ben

    Well for a Good man like me that really thought that i would’ve been married with a family by now is that with so many very high maintenance, independent, selfish, and very spoiled women would be a very Excellent reason why i am still single as i speak which many of my other friends do agree with me as well. And today Most women want the Best and won’t settle for less.

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